I am a NeoCon/WackoBird…but I now support Gay Marriage

English: Portrait of United States Senator Rob...

English: Portrait of United States Senator Rob Portman of Ohio. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I applaud Senator Rob Portman, who dramatically revealed his change of heart on the issue of Gay Marriage this past week.  Portman’s decision was based on a very personal story where his son revealed to him that he was gay, and the Senator realized that he wanted his son to have the same opportunity for happiness and marriage that his other children will have.

Portman’s decision was slammed in the twitterverse and in the mainstream media as self-serving, with people turning this deeply personal change of heart into something much more sinister.  Rather than embracing the converted Senator, Gay Marriage supporters rained insults down on him and his political party, ranging from calling him a flip-flopper, to asking if he would change his mind on the minimum wage or abortion if his children ran across hard times financially or were involved in an unplanned pregnancy.

Many of their comments, not listed here, were completely disgusting and disheartening.

Personally, I am a recovering NeoConservative, who is beginning to lean more and more towards WackoBird Libertarianism.  The issue of Gay Marriage is one that I have struggled with for a long time, and I have participated in several spirited debates with my friends and family throughout the years.  While I am capable of making a full-throated defense of the Republican Party-Line, it has been years since my inner-argument amounted to much more than a slippery slope debate which I was not overly passionate about.  That being said, until recently I have not found the motivation to sit down and really dig into the issue to see if my overall opinion had changed.

Rob Portman changed that for me.  After hearing his announcement, I was surprisingly not angry, as I typically would have been if a Champion for one of my political positions had changed their mind.  I began looking back at the years of debates, thinking about how the strength of my opinion had decreased over time, and I dove deep into the issue.  My position hasn’t changed over the last 48 hours.  However, over the past 48 hours I have realized that my opinion has definitely changed over the last several years.

I now support Gay Marriage.

While you likely won’t see me marching on Washington, or screaming at those who advocate against Gay Marriage, I thought it was worth posting this online to show that it is okay to change your position on key issues and we should not demonize each other when that happens.  Whether you change your opinion based of something that happens in your personal life, or whether it was a slow evolution over time, Political advocates should welcome these new converts with open arms.

Whether it’s Gay Marriage, Abortion, Death Penalty, Gun Control, Minimum Wage, Tax Policy…

On these issues where each side has the support of around 50% of the country, how will your side ever become a clear majority if you don’t embrace those who are willing to let their opinions evolve over time.  The only way to guarantee effective Political discourse in this country is to be respectful of each other’s opinions, and to allow people to change their mind when they have heard a good argument.

I now proudly support Gay Marriage – I challenge each one of you to take a look at some of your own Political Positions this week.  In a world where people are allowed to change their mind on key issues without being demonized, would there be any issues that you might like to alter your stance on?

About Todd Hagopian (@ToddHagopian)

Todd Hagopian received his BA from Eastern Michigan University with a major in Political Science. After graduation, he worked as a Financial Advisor and a Bank Manager before returning to school. He attended Michigan State University, where he completed an MBA with a double-major in Finance and Marketing. Todd is now a Senior Product Development Manager for a Fortune 500 company. He frequently writes about business issues, social media strategy, and political issues that he finds important. Enjoy the blog!

Posted on March 16, 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 3 Comments.

  1. Todd I think this issue highlights the larger issue that the GOP has right now, they are out of touch with many Americans. While it is certainly fine to have your position evolve over time this isn’t really that kind of situation. This is rather disingenuous. I would imagine that many of his constituents have found themselves feeling for their child in a similar situation. All of our politicians have a resposibility to do what is right for America, not just the people closest to them. I think it’s fair to ask how his views would change if his son was an infantry man in Iraq or was on welfare. Our politicians should be held to a higher standard and for that reason the criticism that he recieves from the left and the right is well deserved.

    • Hello Eric,

      Thank you for responding! I respect your opinion, and I have even greater respect for the tone in which you wrote your opinion in. There is nothing wrong with questioning a Politician on his political views, however the tone of the criticism over the past few days was disgusting.

      I don’t think there is anything wrong with changing your views on something once you have been touched by it personally, just as I don’t think you need to be touched by every issue personally in order to have an opinion on that issue.

      I thank you for your comments though, and I very much appreciate you visiting my blog. Swing by again sometime!

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